Valentine’s Day is fast approaching, so you’ve probably noticed the flowers and gifts popping up everywhere and the adverts that tell you that these sorts are things are what you need to feel loved and happy.
You know they’re not though, right?
This month I want to talk about the importance of self-love. Now, don’t get me wrong we all love a gift but feeling loved has to start with loving yourself. If you can’t do that then you’ll never feel 100% happy.
Now, you might see the words ‘self-care’ and roll your eyes. I know there are lots of self-care posts out there; people telling you to sign up for their retreat or that spa weekend where you can switch off from the world. These can be amazing, transformational experiences, but I want you to know that this is not the only thing you can do to look after yourself.
Think about self-care and self-love as taking small steps to make you happy. It’s about listening to your body, resting when we need to rest, finding the small gaps in time and being to make yourself a priority.
No one can tell you what’s right or wrong, you have to do what works for you. Reading, walking, singing, a long bath, a short hot shower, drinking a whole cup of tea while it’s still warm, lunch with friends, lunch alone, a solo cinema trip, ice cream, baking, writing, gardening.
Even spending 3 minutes breathing in your favourite essential oil is a moment of self-care and one that will have a huge impact on how you feel.
The important thing is that you find things that make you smile, that remind you that you’re important and allow you to carve out time in your life where you make yourself a priority. That’s the secret to self-love and when you can love yourself it ripples out into all the other areas of your life.
So, this month don’t let the adverts make you feel that chocolate, flowers and romantic nights out are the way forward. The best way forward is to create a life you love that honours what you need in the way you need it and that starts by loving you first.
Love Clare x