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Helping our children manage transition and change is our priority at this time of year. Read about the top five essential oils which I use to support them.

I have used essential oils for the past 13 years as a therapist, and for a number of years with my boys.  But my discovery over the past couple of years has been how powerful and supportive they are for our children, in multiple ways.  You can read more about why I consider essential oils to be a necessary part of my family life in my blog here.

Not only can they support us physically, but also emotionally. This is particularly relevant for children going back to school, when the transition and change of a whole new school year, can be a big deal.

Before I get into the nitty gritty of the oils, I just want to mention that I myself use Doterra oils and these are the only ones I will ever suggest and talk about.  Why? My reasons are that I want high grade, good quality oils where I have evidence in front of me that they have been quality tested and there is no adulteration present.  Transparency is important to me as these oils are going on my children’s skin so I will accept nothing less.  Some of the oils I suggest below are specific blends produced by this company.  You may have alternative, or use alternative brands and that is entirely your choice.  My only suggestion is that you reassure yourself (through evidence not just say so) that the oils you are using do not contain anything other than the pure, unadulterated oil.

So here are my top five oils for support your child’s ‘back to school’ preparation.

On Guard

Also known as the ‘protective blend’ is my secret weapon in the autumn months, leading into the depths of winter.  New environments, new children and new bacteria including exposure to coughs, cold and viruses.  This essential oil is a blend of Wild Orange Peel, Clove Bud, Cinnamon Leaf, Cinnamon Bark, Eucalyptus Leaf, and Rosemary Leaf/Flower essential oils.  This is my first line of defence when it comes to protecting my boys from impending winter bugs.  Prevention is always better than cure in my opinion, so supporting them from the outset by massaging one drop of this oil diluted in a carrier oil (I use fractionated coconut oil) on their feet before school ensures their immune system is supported.  This oil can be used very effectively in a cold air diffuser to support and protect the environment too.

Plus, as part of the new kids’s collection, Doterra has also developed ‘Stronger’ a pre-diluted, child friendly version of an immune support blend, also designed to keep coughs and bugs at bay to be used in exactly the same way.

Wild Orange

This essential oil, I have discovered, is one of the most appealing for children.  A powerful citrus oil, my boys tell me it reminds them of a basket full of oranges.  As an oil, wild orange is known for it’s mood lifting and energising properties, who wouldn’t feel great smelling this oil? But, did you know it is also great for calming nervous tension?


It was a new one on me too and a great revelation meaning that it is an oil used most often in our house.  I often give it to the children I work with who are having hypnotherapy for confidence or anxiety, as it is a massively supportive oil for these things and it had to be in my top 5 for school return.  It’s an oil which can give children a little boost when they may a wobble, or even when you have a wobble too.  Just the act of inhaling an essential oil can break that cycle of thought and give us something to ‘do’.  A drop diluted in carrier oil in the palms of the hand and inhaled is often enough for my boys.

The ‘kids collection’ also has a blend for these moments of transition and change, known as ‘Brave’, the courage blend.  This oil supports children to go forward confidently into new situations, especially when it involves a new environment and even making new friends.

The ‘Brave’ blend was recently very supportive for my youngest performing in his Year 6 production at primary school.  He asked for this oil before each performance and it felt it helped him feel like he ‘could do it’ and he wasn’t so nervous.

I just want to mention at this point that this brand of oil is so strong and powerful, that one drop is effective enough in any application.  Safety is paramount here too, as well as knowledge and understanding of how to use them.  If an oil is coming into contact with a child’s skin it should be diluted, without question in a carrier oil such as fractionated coconut oil, grapeseed or rosehip oil.  The dilution increases the younger the child.


My boys often complain of a ‘swirly tummy’ or a tummy ache before something big or different happening.  A lot of children can’t differentiate between a physical ache or emotional butterfly’s when they are experiencing something new.  It really doesn’t matter whether it is physical or emotional, as zengest, the ‘digestive blend’ is my go to in these situations.  Zengest is a blend of Anise Seed, Peppermint, Ginger Rhizome/Root, Carraway Seed, Coriander Seed, Tarragon Plant and Fennel Seed essential oils.

I have found it to be massively supportive for the digestive system and swirly tummy’s.  I give it to my boys (again diluted in the carrier oil) to rub on their tummy and will also put it on the feet too. Again, just the act of doing this can have a positive impact on their mind, as they feel they are doing something to help, as do you.


When children are starting, or returning to school, they have a lot going on in their mind, we won’t even know the half of it!  It will often be difficult for them to explain those thoughts and feelings.  When my oldest son started secondary school nearly 2 years ago, I offered him any/all of the oils to support him with this transition.

I always let my boys choose as I know they know best, just like we do about ourselves.  His favourite oil is a blend called ‘balance’, the grounding blend. This blend contains Spruce Leaf, Ho Wood Leaf, Frankincense Resin, Blue Tansy Flower, Blue Chamomile Flower, and Osmanthus Flower essential oils in a base of Fractionated Coconut Oil.

I have found this oil (for myself and my boys)  to be massively helpful with overwhelming feelings, nerves and anxiety.  Used in the morning and at night it can have a calming affect on the body and the mind.

However, as a mum I offer my boys this support and move on, I hope it helps but they don’t often give me feedback.  Then, last March I was doing a talk on children and essential oils at an event.  I asked both of my boys about their favourite oils and why, and this is what my oldest said;

‘When I was in Year 7 I used Balance a lot, every day on my feet before I went to school. It helped me to adjust to the stress of starting secondary school and helped me cope with nerves and worries and to get through the day’

I never even realised! This was an emotional moment for me as it showed me the impact these essential oils had had on supporting my boy through a really important transition for him.

The new Kid’s Collection also has a pre-diluted oil called ‘Steady’, also known as the grounding blend.  This oil is specifically designed for children to use when they feel anxious or worried and to help them feel more grounded and sure of themselves when going into new situations.


A blog about oils would not be complete without mentioning oils for sleep.  For when we are facing a big transition in our lives, often those worries creep in at night when we are getting ready to go to bed, and go to sleep sleep.  This is as true for children as it is for adults.  Often we look for options to support or children, and lavender essential oil is the most common suggestion.  I love lavender, but I would also not be without this other blend which contains lavender.

Serenity is also known as the restful blend, and it contains a myriad of powerhouse oils for calming and aiding a restful sleep, including  Lavender Flower, Cedarwood, Ho Wood Leaf, Ylang Ylang Flower, Marjoram Leaf, Roman Chamomile Flower, Vetiver Root, Vanilla Bean Absolute, Hawaiian Sandalwood. It smells beautiful too, and it has always been my oil of choice for my boys when they are struggling to settle to sleep.  My oldest will choose to massage it into his feet, and maybe put some in his diffuser in his room.  My youngest prefers a diluted amount of the oil massaged up his spine as he finds this really relaxing.

He is my boy with the overactive mind, and this was the oil which showed me how well they worked, when my son, who usually takes up to an hour or two to settle to sleep, was out for the count within 10 minutes!

Again, Doterra have produced a sleep oil within the Kid’s Collection which I use more regularly now, especially with my youngest because it is pre-diluted in a roller ball. It’s called ‘Calmer’ also known as the restful blend and can be used either by your child independently or by you at bedtime as part of a ‘wind down’ sleep routine

So, these oils are definitely the ones I would use for my ‘back to school survival kit’ and throughout the school year.  There are many more, but I would not be without the top five, plus the kids collection in my home.

Love Clare

If you are interested in learning more and accessing ongoing education and support about how to use these oils effectively and safely with your children here the ways you can learn more;

I am running a free workshop ‘Creating Calm and Confidence for Children’ in Marlow, Buckinghamshire on Friday 20th September 2019 at 10am which you can book onto here

I will also be running an online class in my Facebook Community on Monday 23rd September at 8pm. Click here to join the group and the event.           .

If you cannot make either of these sessions, I would be happy to set up a one to one with you to talk about your individual support needs for you and your children.  Complete the form below to get in touch.

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