This lovely lady came to me in the pits of despair. She felt like she was the worst mum in the world because her worries and anxieties were taking over her life. She did not know where to turn and she took the opportunity to work with me without really knowing how it would turn out.
Read in her words how her time with me really rocked her world and helped her be the mum she truly wanted to be.
Before I worked with Clare, I was full of self loathing and had very low self esteem. I was so fearful of life and had very high anxiety levels that were taking over my thinking and stopping me enjoying my life.
This had an impact on my home life, I was arguing constantly with my partner and passing my anxieties onto my 4 year old and 8 year old daughters, for example I had great fears of walking under or near trees, and was scared of brick walls falling on them- this would really impact out activities and I would drain all the fun out of the day. To cope with this I was drinking heavily to the point I was out of control and blacking out. I was stress eating and had put on 2 stone, which then made me feel ugly and useless and I got to the point where I didn’t even dress nice or make an effort to wear clean clothes had signed up for a college course that I hadn’t even started and didn’t know how to start. My life was unmanageable.
As soon as I met Clare I felt at ease. She made me feel safe and I trusted her totally. I appreciated the way that she explained the process of what she was doing with me. I looked forward to every meeting we had, and I never felt judged so I could tell you everything without holding back.
In summary, Clare has literally changed my life. My anxiety levels have decreased massively, and if I feel them creeping up I have the tools to deal with this and reduce them quickly.
I can take the children out now and not be fearful of unrealistic dangers. through Clare’s work with me I have stopped drinking alcohol- currently 2 months sober which is a miracle as I have never gone a couple of days without alcohol in approximately 4 years. I have lost over 1 stone because am no longer stress eating.
I understand my thinking now and recognize when my stress bucket is getting full. Clare has taught me to break things down into manageable size pieces so that they are not overwhelming, and to set small targets that are realistic.
I have begun my college course and have accepted that although I can’t complete the whole course I can complete the first unit, and that it is ok. With Clare’s wonderful help, my whole family has benefited, we laugh and smile a lot more, I am eternally grateful.
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